I haven't found a perfect way to teach Kitchener Stitch, or Grafting, to everybody. All of the methods that use "go through this stitch knit-wise and that stitch purl-wise" leave me a bit cold. They require that your stitches be seated on the needle a certain way, and not everyone knits (or purls) in only one way.
My solution is to get the stitches off of the needles, as soon as possible. I use a little dental floss as a "safety net" when I do this. But, this doesn't help you if you aren't at least a little comfortable with the technique, already.
So, I turn to my guiding star for All Things That Are Kind of Tricky, the TECHknitter.
She has two excellent posts about Kitchener Stitch.
Here's one that uses a darning needle.
Here's another one that doesn't.
The ugly truth is, this is one skill that you have to
practice to master. I mean, practice a lot. Often. Use up every little gauge swatch you've ever saved by grafting them to each other until you feel good about it.
AND, if you are someone who has to have a quiet place with good light and either a YouTube video or written instructions to manage it, that's ok, too. As long as you get a result you like, it doesn't matter how you get there. You are not a lesser knitter because of that.
I actually got a lot better at Kitchener stitch when I practiced a lot of darning and
Swiss darning. It really taught me the "path" of the yarn through the stitches.
Oh, and there's also a
(FREE) Craftsy class with everything you might want to know about seaming, including grafting.
